Sometimes we think that having a good relationship requires the other person to meet an expectation we have. We think another person has to “meet our needs” before we can fully engage in the relationship. Good is a feeling. It comes from your thoughts. Not what other people do. What if you didn’t have to wait around for another person to do something so you can feel good? What if you could just meet your own needs, make yourself feel good, and then be all in on the relationship? What if you could just show up to love the other person and not make your love contingent on what they do? Your thoughts about them are what determine if you have a good relationship or not. And you get to pick your thoughts.